Dear Dr Heartache...
Dear Dr Heartache.....I Need Help....
Where shall I begin? My life is shattered. My dreams are destroyed. My heart is broken in millions of weeping pieces. My emotions are in excruciating pain.
My mind is reeling in confusion. My mind is torn with pain, despair and hopelessness.
My mind is reeling in confusion. My mind is torn with pain, despair and hopelessness.
I am so angry I could chew nails!
My life is over.
I was shopping at the mall last Saturday.
I ran into an old friend. ......I'll call her Tina.
It so happened that Tina saw my husband with his secretary walking out of a motel together a few months earlier.
He had his arm around her. And she was smiling at him. I'll try to continue with his problem.......
He had his arm around her. And she was smiling at him. I'll try to continue with his problem.......
I think you get the picture!
Suddenly my heart is filled with murder! I would like to kill him! As in murder.
Suddenly my heart is filled with murder! I would like to kill him! As in murder.
I would like to smash his head with a big rock!
I would like to lynch him! I would like to pull out his toenails one by one with a pair of rusty needle nose pliers while he screams in pain begging me to stop!!
I would like to lock him in a room and force him to listen to rap music at full blast.
I would like to torture him until he dies a slow agonizing death.
I would like to torture him until he dies a slow agonizing death.
Of course, I won't do it!
God won't let me! I didn't even ask God, I know him, he won't let me kill Howard.
He absolutely will not let me do these things I so much want to do to Howard!
As for that little whore of a secretary..her name is Tammy, I won't even tell you what I think about her.
I am so so so mad, I am beside myself with rage, thoughts of torturing him and revenge.
How is this possible to feel such pain and anger?
Just tell me Dr Heartache, what can I do to overcome such pain?
So, since I can't kill him for fear that God will severely punish me,
what can I possibly do?
I know God won't change his mind, so please help me
find another way to get rid of this anger! I'm desperate!
Even though I would like to get rid of that lying low down cheat.
Deranged with grief and anger in Kansas
Dear Deranged.....in Kansas,
Hmmm.....you poor thing....you are in deep trouble, but the good news is that
you refuse to kill him for God's own sake.
End of that story.
I take it he has been acting faithful since? He sounds like a real two-faced hypocrite. The nerve of some men!
What a weasel!!
What a weasel!!
I hate him too after reading your letter which was soaked with your tears.
I wish I could help you do all those things you thought of doing, but since God absolutely forbids vengeance, you (we) must forgive.
Forgive. Forgive. Forgive.
Forgiveness is not feelings, it is a decision you must make before God.
Remember that you can't depend on your feelings, even though feelings are real.
We serve God with our minds, so in order to control your feelings which that monster of a husband caused along with his miserable shameless girlfriend, you simply must decide to do what God requires of you and not what you would like to do.
Forgive him and follow what comes with the forgiveness.
Hope this helped you...