Dear Dr Heartache.....I Need Help....
I met Romeo at a local dance party. He was attractive and attracted to my attractiveness. I was standing there when he walked over and said.."Hello, I love you, let's get married!"
I immediately slapped him so hard across his fresh face, he fell over backward and went unconscious.
Dr Heartache, I didn't mean to hurt poor Romeo. I had no way of knowing he was so drunk he could hardly walk. I was facing the other way when he approached me. But I had just come out of my 24th relationship in five years and was in no mood for another lying, lowdown, cheating, no-good worthless fast-talking deceiving man.
Dr Heartache, why why why am I alone at my advanced age? I am 30 years old and have gone through so many relationships I am so discouraged and heartsick.
Every man I have been involved with did me wrong. He lied and cheated, looked at other women, thought nothing of having lunch with them at his work.
I am attractive, intelligent, educated and own dozens of pairs of shoes. I even have a subscription to Oprah magazine to keep up...I am well read. I do charity work (I deliver free dog-biscuits to the local pound) I also walk cats for a second job. I busy myself with worthwhile projects when I am not at work.
What is my problem? Why does every man that comes into my life eventually reject me?
How can it be that many women have happy relationships while I sit alone and cry myself to sleep every night?
Please give me some advice to help me that perhaps I can find lasting love.
Bereft in Birmingham...
Dear Bereft in Birmingham,
Well...it sounds like you are desperately trying to find love. But is love really lost? Do you need to find it? Get a grip! Stop going in and out of relationships. Stop! Quit engaging in promiscuous sex. I assume this is what you're doing. Have you no shame or concern for your life and health?
What about others? Can you pass on a disease to them or vice versa?
Is this love infecting someone with a disease? I think not.
You seriously need to find out what love is.
It is not what you apparently think it is.
Love does none of the things you said in your letter.
First love yourself by taking care of yourself and as I said quit using sex and relationships to find or experience love.
Love will never give you a sexual disease and this should tell you volumes about what you're doing.
Go to your local library and check out some books on love and how it behaves.
Don't get any nonsense books that say that love is whatever...........with whoever...........wherever and why ever...
Love will make you happy but first find out what it is.
THEN you will be able to recognize it when it comes your way.
One last thing..love does, it does not demand.
Want to be loved? Be lovable.
And oh yes... quit slapping others!
