Dear Dr Heartache...

PLEASE HELP ME....

I.. discovered today that my husband of thirty years has been seeing another woman. I know it is true because I saw them with my own eyes.

I had to leave town because my mother has been hospitalized.

My father is not able to cope so I flew there as soon as I could.

When I got there, I stayed only three days. My two brothers were there and insisted I return home to care for my grandson, so I left.

Coming home early, I saw my portly husband and his hideous more portly lover kissing outside a restaurant.

What shall I shall do? I am desperate and hurt, confused, bewildered and unimaginably angry.

By the way, I am not portly.

Signed,

On the verge of a nervous angry collapse.

Dear On the verge of a collapse,

Confront him immediately! Tell him he made his bed and so he can now lie in it. I know murder is on your mind, but let him go with his portly lover. If he loved you still, he would be true. Sadly these things happen, so ask God for strength and run for your life!

OR......... forgive him and see if he wants to continue the marriage.

If so, continue, if not make him leave.

What choices do you really have?

Forgive and stay if this is what you and him want.

Or file for divorce.

Personally I would leave and let

the dust from my shoes fly in his cheating

lying portly face.

I hope this helps,

Dr Heartache

Dear Dr Heartache,

Please help me! I'm shocked and traumatized by what my cousin did to me. She speaks evil of me and curses me behind my back, yet calls herself a Christian.

She has always believed that she is better than me. She has succeeded in many things, yet in more ways is a bitter failure.

I've always been nice to her, but she is very keen when it comes to inuendoes, sarcasm and plain old meanness.

Should I continue to be her friend or should I count my losses and not talk to her again.

Signed,

Angry and tired

Dear Angry and Tired,

First you must forgive her. Then do something nice for her. I know it isn't easy, but why stoop to her low level of existence?

Think good of her even though she is mean to you. Obviously she needs help and pity.

But no, it isn't necessary you associate with her in any way.

Let her go her own blind selfish way.

Cast not your pearls before swine...

You go yours.

Dr Heartache

DEAR DR HEARTACHE

Dear Dr Heartache,

I keep getting emails in my inbox telling me I won the Yahoo lottery.

What shall I do?

I have this funny feeling it is all a scam and that I didn't really win all those millions of dollars.

I am at a loss as what to do about it.

Any advice you give will be greatly appreciated!

Signed...

Tired of scam emails,

Becky

Dear Tired of scam emails,

Delete their junk email.

Use your delete and don't ever answer these idiots.

If they continue to harrass you, then report them to Yahoo.

You can also close your account and open a new one where the scammers can't find you.

Goodbye and good luck.

Dr Heartache