He Wants To Meet Me...

Dear Dr Heartache.....I Need Help....
Does love bring misery? I met him online.
Yes, Dr Heartache, we all know that this is happening everyday meeting someone online. I happened to be at the same message boards he was. We were discussing the role of pawn shop owners in our society and if they are a vanishing breed.. he seemed to be so informed about it....We always seemed to be on the same thread discussing relevant issues of the day such as what I mentioned and if the wolf will survive, etc..
I noticed he and I thought so much alike...we both hate Obama passionately so this got us off to a great start...
Anyway to make a long story short, he asked if we could meet in person. I agreed and I gave him my cell phone number. He called and we talked for over an hour. Finally we agreed to meet. His name is Simon.
Guess what happened next? I asked him if it was okay if we met in a public place. I mean I know we can't trust everyone. I was confused at his reply. He said he wanted to meet and I quote him..."Meet me at the edge of town in that old abandoned building on 3rd Street. Be there at midnight, take the bus, wear dark clothing, leave your cell phone at home, and come alone."
Should I be concerned? Or do you think he just might be shy? I'm at a loss what to do. Please give me some advice.
Wondering What To Do In Denver, Colorado

Dear Wondering What To Do In Denver, Colorado
My only advice is and I strongly urge you to take it is this;
Pick up your phone book, right now... look in the Yellow Pages under Psychiatry. Call the first doctor listed. Make an appointment and be sure and keep the appointment. Tell the doctor everything you told me and leave nothing out...remember exactly as you told me...tell the doctor..In closing, as a precaution, make sure the doctor has a butterfly net in case you don't agree with his assessment of your heartache over "Simon".
Hope this helped.

I Need Help Fast!

Dear Dr Heartache.....I Desperately Need Help....
We met at an online dating service called Passionate Love Junction. I looked through all the available men profiles and pics and there Jared was. Dark hair and a wonderful smile. I read his profile and almost died. How could any man be so absolutely wonderful? He is so accomplished, so handsome, so smart, so intelligent, so informed. He is so knowledgeable. I guess what I'm trying to say is he is what he should be; completely attractive..
He emailed me after I filled out all the forms..... and thus began our joy-filled journey to a deliriously happy relationship.
He told me he loved me on our 12th date. I was counting each time we dated so it was on our 12th date he declared his undying love. I keep journals of my life to record each moment. I can only say I am overjoyed at meeting someone so matched to me. Since I am totally gorgeous...It is a perfect match. He is a prince and I am beautiful, could there be any problem?
Unbelievable as it sounds there is a problem! He said that he recently, actually only a few months, ago ended a relationship he had with what he called "I thought she was my soul mate." He even had the nerve to say that he still loved her. Well, need I say more? How could he love me and still love her? Is this even possible to love two women at the same time? What if she decides she wants him back, will he leave me and go to her? I am hurt and confused. What shall I do?

Angry and Confused in Tuscon

Dear Angry and Confused in Tuscon,
Well....well well....he told you he loved you and yet said he still loves her?
Do you really want to be a part of his threesome? He obviously wants a threesome; for now.....and if not why didn't he tell you that he loved her when he first met you?
It is quite clear what he is doing. He wants her, yet he is with you and if she doesn't call him back, he will stay with you, so you are actually just a spare tire so to speak. What a jerk! Also any man who would advertise himself at a dating service to prey on some poor girl while all the time he is heartbroken over an old love is not what you want or need to take home to your heart.
He sounds like a liar and a real loser. Sure it is sad he lost his love, but that has nothing to do with you? Talk about a personal problem! He has one!
Look at what he is made of......lies. He deceived you for awhile just long enough to get you to fall in love with him. He told you about Juliette (He is Romeo) only to prepare you for the worst, which would be she calling him back (good for him and her) and he running to her leaving you (the spare tire) senseless with pain.
Run for your life!
I hope you love yourself enough to flee this crime scene.
He is the criminal here and needs to be accountable.
Bring him before your heart court of justice and sentence him to a life without you.
Not that he will care if he can get Juliette back, but in case he doesn't, he will have to serve the sentence you imposed on him. Add that to his personal misery and he will suffer anguish for being such a liar.
Would you want to be with a man who lives only for himself?
Hope this helped.....